Athithi Devo Bhava! The good old saying supported our culture and tradition of welcoming guests at home and making their stay comfortable! During my younger days I remember guests pouring in to our house even at odd hours and staying for weeks and months. As years passed, the evolution of nuclear family emerged and created a distance between friends and relatives. The new generation of children have grown up without knowing or meeting their first cousins and other relatives. The modern day house invariably has 2 or 3 bedrooms which are occupied by the parents and the children in separate bedrooms. When a guest comes to the house, either the children are forced to give up and their rights on their bedroom or the parents. In most cases, the children are the victims and they do so with displeasure and negative feelings about the guest in the house. The first question that the children ask their parents or to the guest these days is the duration of the stay with which calculations are made about restoration of their rights and independence!
Some guests call up to say that they will just visit for a few minutes and stay back for hours together, have dinner and sometimes ask the hosts to drop them back? This becomes a nuisance value rather than a pleasure which makes one think twice before inviting anyone to home. Some guests who drop by start telling stories after stories about their achievements and the accomplishments of their children without getting to know anything about the family visited! However interesting a person may be, it becomes boring to go on listening to his or family credits.
The possibility of fun time getting converted into boredom is enlarged with such guests who barge in without realising the fact that a meeting is pleasant only if you exchange information and not listen to one side! Some people expect you to pick them up from their place of stay and drop them back after entertainment and dinner. This is the cause of relationship turning sour which people should understand? One must take care to ensure that the topic discussed is common to all and is interesting. Special focus should also be to enquire about the welfare and well being of the persons visited and about their kith and kins. People would like and love to be associated if one does not talk and boast about himself or his family members. Last but not the least, some kind of appreciation should be given to the lady of the house for the efforts and care taken for serving the guests dinner as this will encourage the person and make her feel nice about the whole thing.
Aththi becomes a subject of boredom sometimes and makes you feel like telling Athithi tum kab Jaoge?
No comments:
Post a Comment